Story of Life

One day of the many days, there was a man traveling with his Wife and Kids. On the way he met someone standing on the roadside. He asked: “Who are you?”
The man said: “I am ‘the Money‘.”

So the man asked his wife and kids: “Should we ask him to ride with us?”

They all said together: “Yes, of course! because with ‘the Money‘ it can help us if we wanted to do anything, and if we wanted to get anything we wished.” So they took ‘the Money‘ to ride with them. And the vehicle continued on its way until they met another person on the road. The Father asked: “Who are you?”
He said: “I am ‘the high position and power’.”

So the father asked his wife and kids: “Should we ask him to ride with us?”
They all answered together in one voice: “Yes, of course! because with ‘the high position and power’ we have the ability to do anything we want and own anything we wished.” So they took ‘the high position and power’ with them, and the vehicle continued to finish its trip.

In this way, they met with many people who promised pleasures and desires of life, UNTIL… They met one strange person… The Father asked: “Who are you?”
He said: “I am ‘the Deen’ (Islam).”

So the father, the wife, and the kids; all said in one voice: “No no, this isn’t the time, we desire the pleasures of life and Dunyah. ‘The Deen’ will prevent us and then ban us from pleasurable things and it will take control of us. We will be worn-out from being loyal to it and its teachings. The Halaal and the Haraam, and this thing prayer and that thing Hijaab, and the fasting, and; and; and; and; and; etc, It will be a burden upon us!!!”

“But certainly, we will return to pick you up after we enjoy life and everything else in it.”

So sadly, they left him behind and the vehicle continued on its trip.

All of a sudden, out of nowhere something appeared in the middle of the road. It was a check-point and it had a sign saying STOP!!! They found a man gesturing for the father to get out of the vehicle. The man said to the father: “Your trip has ended. Come with me.”

The father was shocked with fear and did not say a word. The man said to him: “I am searching for the DEEN. Is he with you?”
He answered: “No, I left him not too far back. If you can let me go back, I will get him for you.”

The man said: “You do not have the ability to go back, your trip has ended and there is no going back now… returning is impossible.”

“But I have The Money; The high position and power; My Wife; My Kids; and; and; and; and; and; and; so on.”

The man said to him: “Neither will they benefit you nor will they protect you when you come in front of Allah. Not one bit! You have left all of them behind. The only one that will help you now is ‘The Deen‘ you know? The one who YOU left back on the road.”

The father asked: “And who are you exactly?”
He replied: “I AM ‘the DEATH’ – The one who you were heedless of – and who you did not think of on your trip!!!”

The father looked at his vehicle and found his wife taking control of it and continuing the trip with all of the passengers. And none of them stayed behind with him. He was left all alone.


Love for religion and basketball…

We recommend all of you to show this video clip to your kids. This video gives a very strong message to our youth that Deen and Dunya cannot be separated, the beauty of islam is to apply the deen in dunya.

Purification of Soul

Purification of Body

Etiquette of dealing with parents

1- طاعتهما بالمعروف ،والإحسان إليهما ، وخفض الجناح لهما

Obey them in goodness and be kind and humble with them.
2- الفرح بأوامرهما ومقابلتهما بالبشر والترحاب
Be glad when they ask you to do something for them,
smile to them.
.3- مبادأتهما بالسلام وتقبيل أيديهما ورؤسهما
Say the salam  to them before they do,and kiss their hands and forehed.

.4- التوسعة لهما في المجلس والجلوس ، أمامهما بأدب واحترام ، وذلك بتعديل الجلسة، والبعد عن القهقهة أمامهما ، والتعري ، أو الاضطجاع ، أو مد الرجل ، أو مزاولة المنكرات أمامهما ، إلى غير ذلك مما ينافي كمال الأدب معهما
Make space for them to sit
Sit with respect in front of them
Don’t cross your leg in front of them

.5- مساعدتهما في الأعمال
Help them in their errands.

.6- تلبية ندائهما بسرعة
When they call your name,respond immediately.

.7- البعد عن إزعاجهما ، وتجنب الشجار وإثارة الجدل بحضرتهما
Stay away from annoying them
Causing troubles or arguing in front of them.
.8- ان يمشي أمامها بالليل وخلفهما بالنهار
In the night time,walk in front of them
In the daylight, walk behind them.

.9- ألا يمدَّ يدَه للطعام قبلهما
Don’t reach for food before them.

.10- إصلاح ذات البين إذا فسدت بين الوالدين
If they have problems with each other, try to work things out between them.

.11- الاستئذان عليهما حال الدخول عليهما ، أو حال الخروج من المنزل
Ask for permission to enter their room.

.12- تذكيرهما بالله ، وتعليمهما ما يجهلانه ، وأمرهما بالمعروف ، ونهيهما عن المنكر مع مراعاة اللطف والإشفاق والصبر
Remind them of Allah and teach them what they don’t know from their religion
Enjoin the good and forbid the evil.

.13- المحافظة على سمعتهما وذلك بحس السيرة ، والاستقامة ، والبعد عن مواطن الريب وصحبة السوء
Honor them by behaving in a good way and stay away from doubts and bad company.

.14- تجنب لومهما وتقريعهما والتعنيف عليهما
Do not blame them or be harsh with them.

.15- العمل على ما يسرهما وإن لم يأمرا به
Do whatever makes them happy even if they didn’t request from you.

.16- فهم طبيعة الوالدين ، ومعاملتهما بذلك المقتضى
Understand the parents personalities and deal with them accordingly.
.17- كثرة الدعاء والاستغفار لهما في الحياة وبعد الممات

Ask Allah to forgive them and make duaá for them at all times
in their lives and after their death.

Unfolding a Rose!

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It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of Allah’s design;
But I cannot unfold the petals
With these clumsy hands of mine.The secret of unfolding flowers
Is not known to such as I.
ALLAH opens this flower so sweetly,
Then in my hands they die.

If I cannot unfold a rosebud,
This flower of Allah’s design,
Then how can I have the wisdom
To unfold this life of mine?

So I’ll trust in Allah for leading
Each moment of my day.
I will look to Allah for His guidance
Each step of the way.

The pathway that lies before me,
Only Allah knows.
I’ll trust Him to unfold the moments,
Just as He unfolds the rose

Hashim Amla: A Lesson for us

Hashim Amla does not wear a Castle (beer) logo on his cricket shirt, said that he did not pocket a cent from his match fee. Promoting beer & liquor is against the teaching of Islam and as such Amla became the first player to be the exception. who was granted permission by South African Breweries and Cricket South Africa not to wear the Castle logos on his clothing.

He scored 250 runs (not out) in the recent test match against India

“Since Hashim understands his religion well, his beliefs are staunch and knows what is right and wrong. At the outset he made the decision not to wear the Castle logo on his clothing, which went public, and at the same time he also took the decision that the money earned from the Tests, sponsored by Castle, were forbidden for his use


You religion is clearly important to you but just how much?
The importance of my religion has increased as I have got older. I couldn’t put a timeframe on it but I have found that following the Islamic way of life has a lot of beauty to it. Although I was born into a Muslim family I wasn’t always practicing. The more I have understood the differences in the various faiths I have adopted as much of Islam as possible. I’m certainly no saint but the discipline of the Islamic way of life has helped my cricket without a doubt. I don’t drink and I pray five times a day, which gives stability to my daily routine.

Can you tell us about your background?
I come from a small town 40 kilometres north of Durban . I played a lot of sport at primary school like cricket, soccer, tennis, table tennis. I was brought up in a predominantly Asian community but I later went to Durban High School , which had a good sporting heritage and my Dad encouraged me to go there and paid the fees for me to go. Fortunately after the first year I got a bursary as I was good at sport and got looked after.

Respecting Parents

A Soul’s Burden

Trials and tribulations are a part of life. We do not like them; we do not like to go through them; but eventually we accept them. Even if we pray, fast, pay our zakat and do all different forms of ibadat we still get tested. Sadness sometimes fills our hearts. We could be the best of practicing Muslims, yet poor and unable to put food on our table. We could be rich yet lonely, or young yet unhealthy. It is in these instances that shaytan starts toying with our head. We look at what others have, especially the non-Muslims, and our core gets rattled. The shaytan ignites a fire that gets our blood boiling, hopelessness and frustration set in, and we ask “Oh Allah, why me?! Why am I being punished?”

Psychologists tell us that human beings go through five stages of emotion when struck with a calamity. Understanding the different stages of grief minimizes the first four stages (which are denial, anger, bargaining and depression) and gets us to the final stage – which is acceptance. I went through these stages on many different occasions, as I am sure you have.

I am not a psychologist nor am I trying to refute the works of psychology, but I would nonetheless like to offer a different view, a Qur’anic view, on how to deal with life’s trials.
Though we do not have a say in when we are born nor in when we die, life has a clear beginning and a clear end. What is sometimes unclear is the journey between the two points. For Muslims, however, the journey could not be any clearer. Allah says in Surat Adh-Dhariyat:

وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُونِ

“And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)” (Qur’an, 51:56).
Now think back to the first paragraph of this article. You might think to yourself, “I pray five times a day, I fast during Ramadan and pay my zakat, yet I have an ill child, or still can’t find a job, or this stressor or that.”  You begin to wonder why you are going through this and why you are being “punished.” Before you know it, shaytan takes the helm and you are on a slippery slope of anger and denial.
Before falling down that slope, one must take a deep breath and ponder the following question: is it punishment or is it a manifestation of what Allah has told us in Surat Al-Ankabut:

أَحَسِبَ النَّاسُ أَنْ يُتْرَكُوا أَنْ يَقُولُوا آمَنَّا وَهُمْ لَا يُفْتَنُونَ

“Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested?” (Qur’an, 29:2)

Allah tells us that through this journey we call life we will be tested. In Surat Al-Baqarah, He says:

وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُمْ بِشَيْءٍ مِنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِنَ الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنْفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits…”2:155) (Qur’an,

Tribulations are a part of life but that doesn’t make them easy. We still grieve — but how could we not? We are, after all, a very emotional creation. So how does one cope with adversity? There are many ayat in the Qur’an that talk about different mechanisms of coping such as patience, faith, prayer and acceptance. But what I find the most profound and the most comforting is what Allah says in Surat Al-Baqarah:

لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (Qur’an, 2:286).

If you stand back and take a look at the whole picture, you will realize that what you have when faced by a tragedy is a choice. Will you go through the stages of grief, denying Allah’s destiny and the wisdom of His plan for you? Or will you realize that what you are going through is something you know you can handle? Whatever trial comes your way is something that Allah has planned and which He has guaranteed you can handle. This ayah is comforting because I, as a faithful mu’min who believes in Allah and His wisdom, know deep in my heart that although the sadness is cumbersome it will not be overwhelming; that although the times might be tough, I am tougher; and that whatever comes my way will go away; and that eventually I will face my Lord whom, I hope, will be pleased with me as I am pleased with Him.
So when you go through a difficult situation, be it the inevitable death of a loved one or the loss of a job or just a flat tire on the side of the highway, take a deep breath and say:

قُلْ لَنْ يُصِيبَنَا إِلَّا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَنَا

“Say: ‘Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allâh has ordained for us…’” (9:51).


Give gifts without expecting a return!

So often we hear people saying, “He never gives me an expensive gift. That is why I have chosen this cheap gift for him” or someone might say, “I am going to buy an expensive gift for her because she is rich. She will return it with a better one.”

Is this what exchanging of gifts is all about? While saying such things we forget the real meaning of a gift. Giving a gift or present should be done without expecting any compensation.

It is a voluntary act which does not require anything in return. Therefore it is totally different from trade. In Islam, giving of gift is a virtuous deed and an expression of love, friendship and gratitude. It is strongly recommended in the religion because it strengthens the bonds of brotherhood. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Exchange gifts, as that will lead to increasing your love for one another.” (Al-Bukhari)

Looking down upon one’s gift is disliked in Islam as Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) said, “O Muslim women! None of you should look down upon the gift sent by her she-neighbor even if it were the trotters of the sheep (fleshless part of legs).” (Al-Bukhari)


Abu Huraira also narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I shall accept the invitation even if I were invited to a meal of a sheep’s trotter, and I shall accept the gift even if it were an arm or a trotter of a sheep.” (Al-Bukhari)

If we receive a gift from anyone, we are encouraged to respond by giving him or her something better than what we received. Al-Bukhari narrated that Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) used to accept gifts and reward people for giving them.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever does you a favor, respond in kind, and if you cannot find the means of doing so, then keep praying for him until you think that you have responded in kind.” (Abu Dawood)

The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) disliked taking back gifts that one had already given, and strongly discouraged this habit, as is evident by the narration of Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them) who narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “One who takes back his gift (which he has already given) is like a dog that swallows its vomit.”

The consequences of not following the Islamic etiquettes are long-lasting. If a Muslim gives a gift to a rich person expecting a better gift in return, and if this wish is not fulfilled, he might spoil his relations with his fellow Muslim because of his greater expectation.

Similarly, a person who follows Sunnah will always return the giver with something better and this creates love, friendship and brotherhood amongst each other.

Thus when we do deeds for the sake of Allah and hoping for His reward alone, then we won’t have expectations from people, then this leads to peace of mind and success in this world and the hereafter.

Written By: Syedah Batool Habibah Husaini

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